Learning to Understand Women

Is she asking for advice?

Published by Anil Kumar under , , on 4:15 AM


Women like to share their problems with their significant others. Sometimes men perceive this as "she needs some advice". However this is not always the case. When a woman is sharing her problems and concerns with her man, most often she's telling all those things to him just because she wants to share, nothing more. A man must show his empathy (not sympathy) to her concerns, but it is inappropriate to offer any advice unless specifically asked for.

If the man feels an impending urge to intervene, it is best to start giving out advice slowly rather than blurting out "you should do it like this".

Summary: When a woman is telling a man her worries, listen carefully but do not offer corrective advice unless asked for. If the man must offer uninvited advice, it should be offered gradually, one piece at a time.
Comments (3 Responses so far)

3 reader comments:

Shruti said... @ June 10, 2008 at 9:38 AM

i think that when a women is telling her story , she definately wants some input from her man.she wud be disheartened and sad if she finds the man just nodding his head and keeping mum.personally speaking its a big turn off for me.and it means that the man is just not ineterested, and you are being a pile on.so guys, plzzzzzzzzz say something when a girl is talking to u .atleast it will show that u r paying some attention!!!!! :)

Anil Kumar said... @ June 11, 2008 at 1:42 AM

Thanks Shruti, I totally forgot to include the idea of "empathetic listening" - see I'm a typical man :)

The post is now updated reflecting your important contribution! Thanks a bunch again!

mukti said... @ May 2, 2009 at 12:53 PM

you are doing a good job,bcoz man and women often discuss to each other about many more thing , but never discuss about their feelings.

Post a Comment